Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Tell Me You Love Me

What's kind of a cool phenomenon is when ever I post about something SUPER SERIOUS, like my cousin passing away or my Mom's subsequent nervous breakdown or how I, a sitcom writer, plunged into a deep dark depression and became hooked on sleep meds (I swear, I could have my own LIFETIME movie, y'all) - when I write about stuff like that, NOT only do I get the most hits, but people will read for like, 30 minutes at a time.


But then no one will really comment. DO I SCARE YOU THAT MUCH? Is my honesty FREAKING YOU OUT?

Let me break it down. I'm started off really writing this for myself BUT reading the amazing comments over the last few months I realize, I AM YOU AND YOU ARE ME. We're all going through the same things.

If I can help more, I want to.

So tell me what you think. Even if it's anonymous. Even if it's, "You are really freaking me out right now." Or "It's not nice to talk about your mother that way." Or "WOULD YOU PLEASE TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE????"

Cause, girls, I aim to please.


being a better me said...

I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now and i love it. you are a wonderful writer.i am so sorry you had to go through what you did. i think the reason i dont post responses to your more serious stuff is because it puts my life in perspective. it makes me look back on all of my complaining and feeling sorry for myself and wonder why i did in the first place. did that make any sense at all?

Mandy said...

I think the reason that I don't always comment is not because it's too heavy or too much. It's because it makes me think. It makes me stop and read and think. And sometimes I can't post a comment because I need time to process. It makes me realise that my stuff is not end of the world stuff and it's good. It's really good stuff to think about.

Anonymous said...

My name is Amie and I am a 100 days in bed aholic!
I too am guilty of not posting a message. I'm sorry I really don't have any excuse, but thought I should post to to tell you that you are helping me examine my life and myself. I am becoming more aware of where and how I want to live my life.
I promise I will try to post more, and a HUGE THANK YOU for sharing all you do with us!

Anonymous said...

As the others have said, I sometimes have not commented b/c your serious posts are so thought evoking and really make me examine my life. It's a good silence. It's a serene silence. Knowing that I am not the only one out there who has felt these range of emotions, or lack there of.

Surfergrrl said...

hey, i posted!

i think people have a hard time commenting on stuff like that because it's hard to come up with something that will make you feel better about what has happened. You just kind of shake your head because it was such a difficult thing.

Obsessedwithlife said...

I really enjoy your blog-your honesty, the rawness of your writing.

Keep it up!


Brittany said...

I found your blog on ivillage, and have been reading it for about a month now. I love reading your posts - they are so thought provoking.

adventure grrl said...

All your comments are so beautiful, I am speechless (and teary, but I am at KINKOS and I will not cry at KINKOS!)

This touched my heart especially, "...I sometimes have not commented b/c your serious posts are so thought evoking and really make me examine my life. It's a good silence. It's a serene silence. Knowing that I am not the only one out there who has felt these range of emotions..."

I love you guys and just know... everything I'm going through death, illness of a parent, losing a job, losing a BF is stuff we will ALL (sadly) GO THROUGH.

Mine just happened in a crazy condensed period of time. Never think you can't be sad for the hard stuff you are going through. Don't dismiss your emotions. If I think about the war or Darfur as a way to think my problems are not worth feeling, I'd probabyly be EXTRA SAD WITH SUGAR ON TOP. Pushing them down or ignoring them, won't get them out.

And I'm learning, getting them out is leading me closer to... something that is very far away from sadness.

I feel really connected to you girls, especially today. And incredibly grateful. :)

jess said...

I love your writing. It is so witty and blunt. I know what you mean-you get hits but no comments, it can make you feel like you are a weirdo behind that screen.

You make me think a lot about stuff I wouldnt normally think about-thanks for that. Keep letting it out. Because what you are doing is not only helping yourself but helping tons of people who are dealing with the same problems and are just afraid to talk about it. It's great to see someone who is not afraid to tell it like it is.

Melly said...

I'm probably guilty of racking up "minutes spent" on this page. I often click on my favorite blogs and walk away from the computer while they all load. Sometimes I don't come back for a while, though. :)

Your writing is very good, and a lot of people (including me) connect with it. Hopefully each of those people takes the time to think about their own situation, and what's going to be their personal motivator and their personal success story.

Each of us can only carry ourselves.

KT said...

I read your blog through a feed reader, so I don't see the comment link at the bottom of my page when I scroll down my list... But I read all your entries ;)
Occasionally, if I have time, I'll pop out and leave a comment (like now, even though I really don't have much time LOL...) but since I'm reading at work (and it sometimes, like now, is insanely busy... I, too, work in television - Production Secretary) I don't post a comment all the time...


cl-pooh1972 said...

I love reading your blog! I have it bookmarked so I don't lose it, and your writing style is wonderful. I used to think I was a good writer, but you put me to shame.

Your humor, however, is alot like mine - blunt and sarcastic at the same time.

I've gone through some of the same things (or at least similar) - losing my dad at age 8, losing my job (because I got sick and wasn't there long enough to build up benefits) and I'm still out of work.

Reading your life makes me feel not so alone in mine. For that I am grateful.

marslo said...

adventure grrl, I am just not in the habit of posting on blogs, but I'll take this opportunity to tell you that your writing is awesome. I just found you today and am in the process of reading the entire thing. And I'm loving it!