Thursday, August 28, 2008

Adventure Bowl
We Want To Be Rock Stars!

Okay, this might not go down as one of the most hilarious posts ever. Why? I got a little tipsy at our weekly "Project Runway" party last night. How do you know when you've had too much wine? When you wake up the next morning and you want macaroni and cheese for breakfast. Here goes!

Most of the adventures I've done have required little to no money but all have had the same goal... to be spontaneous, to have fun and to shake up life a little bit.

The Adventure to spend an obscene amount on concert tickets was one I was psyched I picked because music is a huge part of my life and I love going to live shows. But it was one of the first things to go out the window when life started coming down all around me.

But to spend an obscene amount? That's just not me. I'm really conservative about money, a safe spender. What is obscene, anyway? I've trolled eBay and craigslist and have seen great seats at concerts go for $500, $800, $1,000 dollars. A month's rent for one night? I don't know if it's in my genetic make-up.

Then I wondered, if it was all over tomorrow - wouldn't I have wished I had the night of my life?

In a story that's fantastic in the way it turned out but would be boring in the telling - I won tickets to see Dave Matthews at the Staples Center, floor seats, VIP passes and meet and greet for $300 bucks.

It goes something like this: At a charity auction, plied with free wine, want to bid on tickets, hear they went for $1200 last year, drink more free wine to console myself that I will never ever bid that much so therefore, I will not win, woman in charge doesn't put the tickets up at the live auction (apparently she drank more free wine than me and forgot), I ran into the back room and begged to have the tickets at their base price and I was the winner.


Then I sobered up the next day and pondered putting them on eBay. I spent $300?! On concert tickets?! That's 1/2 a computer. It's gas money for 2 months. It's a plane ticket home. It's groceries for the month... if I buy steak! (I really should start eating more steak.)

Then I gave myself this pep talk: "Stop being so practical. You're always so practical. Do you want your obituary to read, "She was always so practical." NO!

So I went. And I took my one of my closet friends and completely obsessed DMB fan, with me. How obsessed? She lamented not being professionally fitted for a bra on the way to the meet and greet.

She loves their music and wanted to make a very boob-a-licious impression.

When we got to the concert, we felt such an amazing rush just being outside, never mind when we got our laminated VIP passes. First stop, VIP bar where we took part in many free beverages. Then we found out there may be a VIP VIP bar with dinner service and we wanted in on that action.

My friend M, grabbed my arm and followed this woman who looked very VIP VIP. She traveled through some secret passageway from the first VIP area into the next. That's when we found ourselves smack in the middle of this huge buffet area.

Pork loin, anyone?

M went for desserts and I loaded up with shrimp alfredo. (Hey, after four (five) VIP beers, this seemed like a good idea). That's when a woman said to me, "You don't get much for what you pay for."

Pay for? You have to pay for this?

Seems we were only in a VIP VIP area in our dreams. We had entered a service entrance to the buffet, bypassing the hostess stand where people were lining up to get to the buffet and then sit down to eat. So here we were glad-handling what we thought was free food.

And it was not. Which, once we had confiscated my stolen goods onto an adjoining patio, just made it all the more enjoyable. Had I paid $50 for shrimp alfredo I would have been so mad!

The concert was amazing. We were in the 22nd Row and for the encore, I snuck up to the 5th Row. It was mesmerizing to be up that close. The concert had a deeper meaning because the band had found out just hours before that a founding member, their sax player, had died that day.

Maybe it was all the VIP beers, or maybe it was Dave dedicating songs to their band mate who has passed away but it was really emotional. It all seemed to come to a head when he sang "Sister" which has been sometimes theorized to be about his murdered sister and other times about his surviving sister who helped him through it...

"Think about another day
Wishing I was far away
Wherever I dreamed I was
You were there with me"

That's it. That's when the tears came. Because, I couldn't believe after such a tragedy, that they could play that night. And bigger than that, that the lead singer could have ever gone on, after the death of his sister.

It made me think so much of my cousin and how much I felt and wondered if I could ever do the same after we lost him. But seeing the band, I don't know, it just made me think, that's what you do... you just do it.

You go on.

And you do it for them.

Because they would want you to. Because it's more of a way of honoring them then getting under the covers and hiding ever would be. Because a life lived any other way, than the best way it could, would be such a waste.

And as I got more teary at "Bartender" and as I danced crazily to "Everyday," I thought, that's a lesson that's worth way more than $300 dollars.

This blog is dedicated to someone special.



hope&laughter said...

I sympathize with being practical. So happy for you for taking your own advice. Wish I would do the same sometimes.

Ginger said...

I love your blog. I can't wait to hear more.

Dedicated Reader said...

This is a beautiful entry, you haven't talked about your cousin in a while, but it's always touching when you do. It's a great message, too.

thegoodnamesaretaken said...

This sounded like an amazing experience! I went to a music festival this year and people scoffed at how much I paid for my tickets but it was definitely worth it. Yes, I/we should be practical and save but every once in a while, it's good to spend a little extra on something you'll really enjoy.

Dancing Nancies said...

You're a great writer. That was funny and sweet and... something I needed to hear because I worry so much about money instead of living and having fun. I'm so glad you had a great time :)

Tw!nkleTw!nkle said...

This blog made me happy and gave me goosebumps at the same time. im a practical person but I try to occasionally do something spontaneous. i lived in a no-pets dorm room (a.k.a. Prison) and i decided to adopt a rabbit. i kept him secret in my dorm for 4 months and i was a lunatic stressing out about it. if ur pet is caught u have to get rid of it and he had nowhere to go. im glad i did it now, looking back. if i didnt take the chance, i wouldnt have my wonderful pet, right? the best things in life come from just living a little.


myself said...

OMG you luck dog you, one of my favorite bands, like, eva! and with my concert photography bug, even more so!

Hey, the secret I have found, after sneaking into many VIP sections at concerts was that if you act and look like you should be there, no one questions you. But good on ya for the stolen food. Yum!

forgetfulone said...

Wow. That's such a well-written story. I'm the practical one. The one who still hasn't accepted my father's death because to do so would probably mean I wouldn't be able to meet my deadlines and demands.

I'm glad you went! I'm also glad you didn't have to pay $50 for shrimp alfredo!

Surfergrrl said...

That must have been so difficult for them. what an experience.

Michelle J said...

Amazing writing! I felt like i was right there with you eating that shrimp alfredo and then dancing to DMB!! Really great!!


JessaPoppy said...

Wow, this blog literally brought me to tears. I lost my brother 7 years ago and I'm just now learning to accept it and trying to live my best life...for me and for him. He deserves that respect. This entry made me realize that even more. Thank you so much....

Call_Me_Toots said...

Wow! That sounds like such a great time! And how amazing that they could play through that pain...but I guess life and emption truly fuels their music. They rock.

Maureen said...

Thanks for the comment! I am trying to catch up on yours!! I really love it! Very motivating to get up and get out there! "HELLO WORLD!!"

death by chocolate said...

wow - thanks for the comment! you're right about blog comments being better than weight loss, haha. your comment definitely made my day!

but have to say that i really enjoy YOUR blog - your posts are both hilarious and meaningful. looks like i'm going to become a regular!

Westie949 said...

My sister sent me this blog. It is always so incredibly honest, funny and hopeful and I really love it.

PrincessB said...

You know...sometimes you have to splurge on what makes you truly happy. Seriously.

Great post and from the heart. Love your blog.

Bridget said...

This was so unexpected, the beginning had me laughing and the end I was totally crying. I don't know if that's what you intended but it was really poignant and beautiful.

Melly said...

What a great way to live life. :) Keep going, darling!! There's a lot more life to live out there!